Only If You Said Goodbye: Handling Loss at Thanksgiving

I wished you would have said goodbye. But if you did I'm sure I would not have let you go. I wonder now what you thought of in the last moments that you held life in your grasp. Did you think about me/us? The picture on the wall lay flat on the floor face down as I entered my living room, I wondered how it happened, the backing gave way, as did you. You gave up what you could no longer hold; life. I miss you. I wish we had those long talks in the night. I wish we would have held each-other until the morning. I wanted to hear you say, "I love you" my daughter, you are special to me. Just one more day to make it right, to clear the air, to tell you that I wouldn't trade you for anything in this world. You are the only Mom, and Dad I have and I cherish you both. But you both left so soon without warning. I miss you so.

I miss you so, why did you leave so soon. I/ we needed you. Why weren't you able to give yourself and not things. All I/we have left of you are the things. They're void of life , the chairs you sat on are empty. 

This Thanksgiving I will remember when we all ate together, and tired of Turkey everything by the next Wednesday after thanksgiving. No more Turkey left overs please. I'd eat more dried turkey by Saturday if only you had said goodbye. I might not have let you go in Peace. I wouldn't, couldn't endure such an responsibility, so the Infinite lover of my soul spared me the moment of your final exit.

IF you or someone you know is suffering the loss of a loved one this thanksgiving holiday; Give Thanks for the life that they did have, for the moments when you did hear them laugh, or cry > Give Thanks that they were yours for even one moment in time and they loved you the best way they knew how. Even if they never said it, think of the times when they showed up for you.  It takes a strong will to accept the loss of a loved one and even more courage and tenacity to let them go and rest. I know you cry yourself to sleep at night, but take courage and give thanks. Give thanks this thanksgiving that you have those memories and the opportunity to create different ones now.  

Thanksgiving is an opportunity to reflect on all the goodness you have in your life, so don't allow sadness and loss to consume the joy and the opportunity you still have to give thanks. Love and move forward even if your loved ones never said goodbye. They loved you more than they could say.

The Incubator

You are your own personal incubator of success. Those ideas you freely share with others, is a virtue you may continue to cultivate; which, can serve as somewhat of a mental catalyst to your own success.
We live in an Era of massive information, and; access to it is not scarce nor is the information necessarily new for that matter. Even the wisest man that ever lived said, "There is nothing new under the sun." So sharing information can be a catalyst for someone or yourself to keep
motivated whereby creating a path to success.

Most people never realize their full potential, because; for one reason or the other they become stagnated by circumstances, fear, and failure. The average human being is mostly afraid they won't succeed. So they become their own personal incubator of ideas, innovation, and success that never moves outside of themselves.
In order to move past this crippling bad habit is to open the incubator of the mind and allow those ideas to become practical works of evidence. If you want to have a photography business, which captures the memories of countless individuals. Then you must first buy a good camera , and begin taking pictures of close friends and relatives, and of your neighborhood. Maybe you can take a photography class that teaches you the processes of good imagery/photography. This may be the vehicle to your first photography job.
Incubating ideas in the mind is good but putting them to practice is even better.

DREAMS CRY

Tears fill your eyes as you imagine all hope is gone. Your dreams will never see the light of day. " Or so you think" Why are you inhibited? What is holding you back? Who told you that you can't do it? Or maybe your circumstances suggested that you shouldn't!! It's time to stop living within the prescribed ideas that others have for your life. You must decide now!! Not tomorrow! You may have been dreaming of writing that book for a long time, and somehow one thing or the other gets in the way, right? Quit making excuses, start writing living today, and then tomorrow you do it again, each day until it's done. Or maybe you've had a business idea for a much longer time but you can't seem to find the way.  
Voices of discouragement are reeling through your mind like an ancient locomotive that's moving the speed of 200km/h of the fastest train in the world? To a greater extent your destiny is calling you. The speed of your doubts should be overshadowed by the sound of your feet on the pavement of life; with an urgency that defies gravity itself. Consider how the Cherry Blossom makes it green leaves; as the season changes, despite of the changes in weather conditions; it does what it does because it's season has come. At night the beautiful white flowers appear, but in a few days it turns to tiny budding green leaves. Before you know it summer is here, and another block of time slips away. Our Dreams cry inside us when they suffer from expressive malnutrition. Give them new life. Are your dreams crying inside you? Will you move only when your season changes? You decide how long your dreams will cry.

The Plastic New Year and You.

So it's a new year and everyone's excited about the prospects of a new beginning, changes, relocation and brand new opportunities. It is very realistic to think that a new year or season should bring about positive changes in your life; especially,  when you felt like you've been in a rut for a while.
What is it about a new year that makes people feel that magically, circumstances will change in their life? Is there any truth to this ideology? Well according to Psychology Today, in "Prime Your Gray Cells".  The answer to our question is Plasticity.
Simply put the brain has the ability to change our perspective , If we train it to do so. For instance the article states that with plasticity of the brain, "your brain has the ability to grow new neurons, make new connections, and tamp down dysfunctional or unproductive connections."
So often times we're stuck in a rut because that is what we are thinking.We do not exercise the brain in order to get it to respond appropriately. In other words, We are what we think.

So if you think that your circumstances will not change then the brain sends the signals throughout the body and that becomes our experience. Hmm. So; so much for the new year and new beginnings huh? NOT!! Absolutely the opposite.
The New year is associated with people's beliefs that as a new year rolls in something new is on the horizon. In actuality something new is happening everyday of our lives we just don't elasticize our brains  to thinks so. We don't have to wait for a new year to think that a season of sadness, disappointment and or difficulty will suddenly go away, because it's the new year, it would go away anytime you deem it to, or believe that it would go away.

Now for a lighter note: what does the new year do for us? Well it puts the brain in gear to make changes that we could not or would not otherwise do any other time of the year. We create this thing called RESOLUTIONS!!! Ahhhhhhhhh....according to Websters the definition of  resolution is; the mental state or quality of being resolved or resolute; firmness of purpose.or it's a resolve or determination: to make a firm resolution to do something. So the plasticity of the brain has been visualizing change, and newness right? 

Alright then; consider this, if the brain has the ability to be plastic or moveable, or changeable; then the strength to accomplish goals, challenges,  and circumstances is to tap into those ever growing neurons, which connects the mind to our plans.  It brings about FOCUS; which is what most of us need in order to take on a challenge or change our purpose, direction or circumstances, the plastic brain connects us to our true goals and desires..

So what is this saying? In order to be resolute there must have been a decision to make a change or do something from some earlier date, right? And we just didn't act upon it or do something to bring about the change. So now that the season has change we make the connection that something new needs to happen. We begin to stretch the elasticity of our brain; or rather the PLASTIC of our brain. So now you understand that the new year is somewhat of a catalytic machine for the Plastic Brain in You. What ever you do, know that your plastic brain supports you.